Henry Moore <henry@fitwelltraveler.com
Rekindle the Flame on Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day —some people can’t wait for this day of celebrating love while others can’t wait for it to pass. Typically, when you are still in the honeymoon phase of a relationship, the excitement of Valentine’s Day is insurmountable. You can’t wait to spoil your honey with gifts of adoration and affection. However, more seasoned couples may have either lost the fresh feeling of excitement surrounding Valentine’s Day or they are just plain out of ideas on what to gift their loved one. In moments like these, reaching inward just may give a pleasant surprise to you and your lover. Doing an exercise to pinpoint your love language may provide the perfect boost to spice up your Valentine’s Day!
What are the love languages?
There are5 love languages, which simply means there are five ways people speak and understand love. The love languages are words of affirmation, which means to use words of positivity and love to build your partner up. Quality time, which means to spend a considerable amount of time with each other, minus distractions. Receiving gifts, which is really powered by the principle of thoughtfulness. Acts of service —doing something for your partner that you know they would enjoy and appreciate, and physical touch —which includes hand-holding, embracing and kissing.
In order to find out you and your significant other’s love language, you both will need to answer aquestionnaire. You may want to take the questionnaire when you are in separate rooms, to allow yourself space and time to answer the questions freely and truthfully. There will be a set of 30 questions, and you will be prompted to choose one answer for each set of sentences. Once you’ve made the selections, you will then tally up your total by counting the number of times you circled each individual letter. The area in which you score the highest is your love language!
Once you have discovered your language, it’s time to compare notes with your partner. Use the answers as a guide tocommunicate what you really want from the relationship and allow them to do the same. More often than not, a lot of problems tend to rise in relationships because one person is feeling misunderstood or not heard. Learning your honey’s love language is like getting to know them all over again, and who knows, you may even learn something new about them! Maybe they prefer words of affirmation over gifts, or maybe their idea of quality time with you is being curled up on the couch together at home rather than out on the town. Now that you know that, you will not only be more in tune with what they want; you will also begin to feel good about yourself because you know how to really please your partner.
Another fun activity to incorporate into this exercise on Valentine’s Day is to write a letter of commitment to each other, stating that you will both honor each other’s love language with the intention to express affection in the ways each of you interpret love. Keep this commitment close to your heart and watch how doing so will provide better communication and increased understanding in your relationship! Clear communication is one of the best ways to improve romance and passion between two lovers.
Using Valentine’s Day to take time out to learn each other’s love language will indeed prove to be the gift that keeps on giving. What better way to spoil your significant other than to connect with them in a way that they understand most? It’s been said that the best things in life are free, and the payoff of learning deeper ways of understanding your partner will prove to be truly invaluable!
